SPICE UP YOUR MARRIAGE

How do you treat your marriage? Are you generous to it? Do you take the initiative to add fun, flavour and fire into it or have you settled for the norm while your marriage could have been extraordinary? 

Apart from marriage being a divine institution that requires the hand of God, there are many things that you can do to enrich your marriage. One such aspect is  be to deliberately great to your marriage, to give it special care and attention. 
With busy work schedules, parenting and numerous social engagements, a couple can easily neglect their marriage and fail to give it the attention that it deserves. When this happens, marriage becomes lackluster. But you can change that by purposing to spice up your marriage. Add interesting and creative activities into it and rekindle the love and laughter every day of the week. Here are a few suggestions.

Love Everywhere

Call your spouse at work or at home or send him or her sweet text messages or emails. This is always a much appreciated gesture. It leaves your spouse feeling loved, appreciated and makes them know that you are thinking about them. Love notes or small cards can be slipped into the handbag, pockets, wallets, under the pillow among other strategic places. Imagine the nice feeling when your partner receives them. Here is a perfect example of a wife who knew just where to keep such notes. Keith was anxious about the presentation he was due to give in the next half hour. The company he worked for was pitching to a multinational and it was Keith’s biggest presentation and his bosses’ were expecting him to close the deal. His wife Claire was aware of how important this was to him and how hard he had worked. Before Keith left for the office, she slipped a sweet love note inside his laptop and another inside his dairy. Unaware, Keith opened his laptop only to find a lovely uplifting message from his wife. He smiled boldly and felt as though he had already gotten halfway through. He found the other note while retrieving some information from his diary, as the multinational representatives walked into the boardroom. The second love note boosted his confidence even higher and he gave a brilliant presentation. His company got the deal; his wife got the dinner, the flowers and the chocolate. Awesome!

Love in Action

Acts that show your partner that you love and care are an effective way to fire up your marriage. At a recent married couple’s dinner, the host asked couples to share their top secret recipe that spices up their marriage. One young couple revealed how they play pretend (right in their bedroom) as professional masseuse and give each other a full body massage. The husband continued. ‘It starts off with a fake phone call to the massage salon where I request for a full body massage. They send me a masseuse who happens to be my wife. She drives over, takes me through the various packages and the cost for each. I agree to all the terms and she goes on to perform the massage. After a tiring day at work, this is utter bliss. Playing pretend adds laughter as we try not to mix business with pleasure, which is a very hard task’ he concluded with a shy smile.

Beautiful Words

Words of appreciation and admiration have such a powerful effect they leave your partner feeling confident all day. Begin the day with words of praise to your husband or wife and look out for the smile or blush. Lovingly appreciate your wife for preparing a refreshing breakfast. Affirm your husband’s driving skills. Words such as ‘I appreciate how well you provide for our family’ boosts your husband’s morale a thousand times over and drives him to go the extra mile for his appreciative wife. Let your wife know how much you appreciate her care towards the children and the home. Even if a career woman, sincerely appreciate her input and any other positive traits. Do not forget to admire your spouse’s physical appearance, a new dress, a tie or a hairstyle that looks good on them. You can never go wrong with sweet words of praise.

Love in a Letter

Write a letter to your sweetheart and tell them why you would marry him or her all over again. Tell them how much they mean to you, how much you have enjoyed the time you have been together (despite hi-cups that every marriage faces) and how much you want to continue sharing your life and love with him or her. In short, share your feelings, your dreams and hopes. This is the part where you avoid bringing up the bad memories as your spouse will want to keep the letter to read in the future and will not want bad memories tagging along.

Delightful Friday

Choose a night when you can stay late and watch your wedding video alone, preferably in the bedroom. Look through your wedding pictures and savor the memories etched within. Gather other items such as birthday cards, love letters and gifts items you exchanged during your courtship and enjoy the beautiful recollection. Listen to the music that played on your wedding day and put on your wedding gown for your husband to remember. Turn the evening into a delightful one. If possible, go back to your honeymoon destination and request to be given the exact suite you shared during your stay. This kind of activity gives a couple the opportunities to reflect on their marriage, recommit themselves to one another as well as heal a wounded heart. It is a sure way to rekindle the love that you shared during your courtship and earlier days of your marriage.

Step in the name of love

The aroma of steaming coffee and pancakes fills your bedroom. You think you are having a sweet dream until you hear your children talking excitedly. It’s Sunday morning and your help does not come in today. You turn to tell your husband that someone has been kind enough to prepare breakfast only to find him gone. You jump out of bed and are met by a clean and tidy house, breakfast ready and served, clean dishes and happy children. Imagine the special feeling in your heart; the smile and the tears of joy that you so want to hide. You cannot help but feel loved and appreciated. As you sip your coffee, you look at your husband lovingly, silently planning to reciprocate this act of love with something he will never forget. What’s your spouse’s routine? Washing the car? Cooking? These routines are tiring and can get dull. Once in a while, in the spirit of love, step into your spouse’s shoes; send them off to rest while you take care of things. This helps you appreciate the effort they put in their chores while at the same time gives your spouse much needed rest. They will come back energized and feeling good.

The list of ideas on how to spice up your marriage is endless; all it needs is a little creativity and imagination. From dinner reservations to simple surprise gifts, there is so much you can do for your marriage that will accelerate its growth and bring you closer, add joy and fulfillment. Do not procrastinate; do not wait to have a lump some money or a big idea, in a committed marriage relationship, the simple things count just as much as the grand. Do something great for your marriage today.